Relationship Matters

Relationship Matters



Whether you’re together or separated, the way you and your partner communicate can impact on your children. All relationships have tricky moments it’s how they’re experienced and resolved that matters. Of course, disagreements and arguments are completely normal and part of everyday life but if it is becoming a problem then you can get help. Parental conflict is not the same as domestic abuse – if you are afraid of your partner or feeling that they control your life then this is more likely to be domestic abuse, please seek help either from your local council or the NSPCC.

Do you recognise any of these things?

  • Are you arguing, having rows, shouting all the time with each other about things like, money, how you parent or housework?
  • Are you worried about splitting up?
  • Is there sulking, silent treatment, slamming doors or walking away from each other?
  • Are you anxious or worried and is this getting in the way of managing everyday life?
  • Are you not able to say sorry after an argument and move on?
  • Are you using hurtful texts, emails or social media against each other?

For a video explaining parental conflict and the impact on children click here

Wakefield Council is part of the ‘Relationship Matters’ programme across Yorkshire and Humberside, in collaboration with other neighbouring Councils we are working together to reduce parental conflict. More information can be found here:

Sometimes it can be challenging to separate out between parental conflict and domestic abuse. Relationship matters focus is on relationships where things are ‘mostly respectful, equal, cooperative but experiencing difficulties.

If there are concerns about controlling / coercive behaviour, violence or fear and you are in immediate danger call 999, or call 101 if you’d like to make a report. 

For advice, help and support in Wakefield contact WDDAS; 0800 915 1561/ 07876 395460 open Monday – Thursday 8:30am – 5pm and Friday 8:30am - 4:30pm

We are committed in Wakefield to ensure that we are in a position to respond early with support to families, providing early intervention and prevention before relationship issues escalate and have a detrimental impact on children and families.

For more information and access to practitioner resources please access the Safeguarding Partnership website 

For access to the E-Learning course please register here.

Additionally there is a train the trainer session planned for Wakefield, virtually over 4 days 2nd 3rd 4th and 5th November 2020.

Please display and share this poster with your service users

Some useful links;

Stay calm here

Work it out here

Get some help here

Relationships here

Break ups here

Big changes here

For Baby's Sake


' For Baby's Sake' (Formally the Stefanou Foundation)  empower expectant parents with what they need to break the cycle of domestic abuse and give their baby the best possible start in life, especially by helping them to come to terms with trauma and adversity in their own childhoods.

For information and resources take a look on the website.

Me, You and Baby Too – new guide for practitioners

Having a baby is one of the biggest changes you and your partner can go through. You’ll both be tired and stressed, and you may argue more.

We recently launched a new practitioner guide for the Me, You and Baby Too programme, enabling frontline practitioners to provide remote relationship support to first-time parents using the programme.

for the resource click here

Coping with stress and drinking - a guide for supporting parents


Our online resource, Coping with stress and drinking, offers support for couples who want to drink less alcohol and get on better with each other. This new guide helps frontline practitioners introduce parents to the resource and support them as they work through it.

Available to use alongside the digital courses at no cost until January 2021. It's the first time we have produced digital practitioner guides of this kind so we would love to hear your thoughts on them. There is an option to give feedback at the end of the guide.




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